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It is a technique and an art to love your child's positivity and to find ways to appreciate and compliment them.

  I hope all parents can find this feeling.

  So, how to describe, imply and appreciate?

  There is a famous experiment in psychology called "Rosenthal Effect".

  Professor Rosenthal told the teacher of a class, without knowing anything about the class, that certain students were exceptionally bright. As a result, after a period of time, these students became really smart. Because the teacher believed that these students were smart and treated them with appreciation, praise, encouragement, and example.

  So, when children are motivated, we have to appreciate and praise them.

  Logical interruption method

  But what method do parents use when a child shows no motivation or even denies that he or she is motivated?

  For example, the child says, "Mom, I just don't have a good head on my shoulders, or I just can't write well in essays. He's not confident, he's not interested, I just don't like learning, I just don't like math, I just don't like language. That's when you say, "You talk so well! Is that okay? No way!

  This is the time to use the logical interruption method.

  What do you mean by logical interruption? For example, he says, "I'm just not good at writing essays. You interrupt him, "Didn't you write some good essays in the second grade? Now he is in the fifth grade, he used to be good at writing essays.

  All of a sudden his logic breaks down and you interrupt his thinking. When he thinks about it, it seems to be so.

  For example, if he doesn't like to learn, you certainly can't say, you don't like to learn to say well. You just say this, actually you love to study! For example, when you were reviewing last semester, you had been arranging your own study for ten days and we didn't even care about you. Interrupt this logic of his.

  For example, if he says, I just don't like to write essays, I can't write essays, you can say this, I don't believe you can't write essays.

  When your child shows false self-denial in the five positives, interrupt the logic to interrupt his lack of confidence in himself, his false description of his lack of interest and motivation.

  After the logical interruption, you don't want to ramble on and on, finishing a sentence. It's no fun for you to keep chattering.

  He may say next time, "I just can't write well in my essay," and you'll interrupt him again. You can interrupt him by finding a reason to say which essay you wrote particularly well, or which letter you wrote particularly well, or which note you wrote particularly well.

  One child was very naughty and the parents told me that he couldn't write anything well, but he could write checks. He wrote a good check to the teacher. I said, "That's what should be recognized, it means he has writing ability! He can't write anything well, but he can write a good check.

  When he thinks he doesn't have five positives, make sure to interrupt his logic.

  Then, more positive appreciation, praise, encouragement and example.

  Know this, and your child will eventually burn up on the five positives.

  3.8 The Genius Parent

  So, how do you become a good parent and how do you use these five ways to geniusly nurture your child's five positives?

  Speak two metaphors, and really comprehend them to find the feeling.

  Carefully nurturing the seedlings of the five positives of children

  The first metaphor, as we all know, is the growth of a plant, which starts from a small bud and grows into a big tree. Why do we call educating children seedlings? That's what it means.

  It is not okay to pull up seedlings. You are anxious, say you grow it, a grab, leave the soil, not allowed. Or you blame it, why do not you grow, it is not allowed. Or you say, why are you so bad, step on it, no.

  The seedling, must be watered diligently, shine sunlight, fertilize, let it grow on its own, you provide only this nurturing conditions.

  Now, parents are invited to think about the five states of your child's motivation, hopefully very specifically, as if they could see inside their eyes.

  What is the bud of your child's interest? What is the bud of your child's motivation? What is the bud of self-confidence in the child's heart? What is the bud of the child's concentration and motivation? What is the bud of the child's will? You must feel it clearly.

  Then, with your appreciation, praise, encouragement and example, water it, fertilize it, shine sunlight on it, and let it grow up slowly by itself.

  When a child has misconceptions, it is as if weeds are growing around it, and use the logical interruption method to remove these weeds. He thinks he can't do it, he thinks he doesn't like to study, he thinks he doesn't have perseverance, he thinks he doesn't love a certain subject, all of these are the interference and pollution of his misconceptions, all of them are weeds, use the logic interruption method to get rid of them.

  Carefully cultivating the seedlings of the five positives in your child's mind is what a good parent has to do, and it is the most important thing.

  Igniting the five positives in your child

  Let's make another analogy. We were talking about the growth of plants, and now we are talking about the burning of fire.

  Plants have seedlings. When a fire burns, does it also have embers?

  There is a pile of firewood on the ground, you want to ignite it, you cross a match, this is a seedling. Once this seedling ignited, at first just a little, in the grass a small bean of fire fell on it. Your firewood may also be relatively loose, not dense enough, or perhaps some part of this pile of firewood is still a little damp, or perhaps not very breathable, or perhaps too much wind, no matter which situation occurs, the small fire may go out.

  Have you ever paid attention to the burning fire? A small fire how to burn up in a pile of firewood and grass, the talk to take advantage of the strength. Too small, without giving some wind, without blowing a mouthful of air can not. The wind is too big, it will also blow out. A pile of firewood is too tightly pressed, can it burn? Can not burn. Too loose, but also can not gather fire.

  Burning fire is this, the firewood to the middle of the fire "coaxing" point, the "coaxing" word used very accurately, and then, also have to take advantage of the strength, slightly blowing a little, the wind is not enough. And then coaxing point, this side of the wet to get out of the way, the dry to get over, get around, slowly ignite up a little.

  After the fire is lit, the wind can be a little stronger, the firewood can be piled up more, so that it is burning vigorously.

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