To have a serious conversation with your child -woodmam

Then, in the face of the child's current situation, the first thing is to have the psychological quality to endure together with the child. To be clear to the child, this is the reality, just like an athlete is the first in the provincial team, to the national team will not necessarily be the first. But to go from a normal school to a key school is, after all, progress. Even if you are in the middle of the pack here, or even below the middle, it doesn't mean you are regressing.

  It is important to encourage your child to start by acknowledging this reality and strive to improve little by little.

  This is a time when any parental complaints and accusations, regardless of conditions or circumstances, may fundamentally undermine a child's motivation to learn.

  There is another situation, because of the different intellectual and psychological development.

  Often at the junior high and elementary school level, girls have an advantage over boys in learning. But when it comes to science and technology universities, there are often more boys than girls. Why? Gender differences caused by.

  Then there are the differences between different people. Some parents pay attention to the development of their children's basic strengths from an early age, although in elementary school grades are about the same, but in middle school, high school, he is ahead.

  Some children do well in elementary school, but their basic intelligence development is average, their learning methods are not flexible enough, their extracurricular knowledge is not rich enough, and as their studies increase, they show some kind of deficiency.

  It is important to analyze the specific reasons for regression and understand whether it is due to environmental changes or to the development of different genders, qualities and intellectual structures.

  It could be a lack of effort, or it could be psychological restlessness brought on by different developmental stages. Adolescent children can be a bit restless. They were doing well in school and then they regress. It could also be due to a change in the family. It could also be because of the child's tendency to fall in love early, or it could be some kind of frustration from the parents and the school environment. It could be some kind of psychological disorder in the child. And of course it could be because of an activity outside of class that is particularly fascinating to the child and distracts him.

  All sorts of reasons can cause a child to regress.

  When your child is regressing, the best thing for parents to do is not to reprimand, not to complain, not to scold, but to talk calmly with your child and not to avoid the problem.

  Avoidance is definitely wrong. It is also wrong to blame and scold.

  Discuss and communicate with your child in a particularly calm manner. Encourage your child to figure out the reasons for regression on his or her own. Parents just need to be especially kind and chat with their children without pressure, and the children will take the initiative to tell the reasons in the process of free talk. Parents don't have to be very specific in asking why you have regressed in school. Or they may just talk about learning. How are you feeling lately? How is school going?

  From the free conversation around learning, the child may slowly identify the reasons why he or she is falling back in school.

  If the child can identify the reasons, the problem will be easier to solve.

  To reprimand without finding the reasons is the stupidest thing to do. The child doesn't know why he or she is regressing until he or she takes stock. Does the child know that he is regressing because he is impatient in adolescence? He won't know if he doesn't want to. Another example is that the child has been watching multiple ball games in a row during this time and has delayed his studies. He won't want to know, and he won't even be able to find this particularly obvious reason.

  Have a serious conversation with your child.

  Be aware that there are some reasons that are difficult for a child to talk about to his parents.

  Will he talk to you about his early love? Many children will not. Adolescent-responsive children won't talk to you about it either. Some children are even afraid to tell their parents what kind of difficulties they are having in school.

  Therefore, allowing the child to summarize and discover the cause on his or her own, or through parental observation and conversation with the child, is an important part of the work to address academic regression.

  Without finding the reasons, parents ask their children to reverse the regression, and criticize and reprimand them, this education method is undoubtedly inappropriate.

  12.11 Conclusion

  There are many ways to make a child a genius in learning, but the most fundamental way is to make the child have a sense of upward mobility and motivation in learning from an early age.

  A child is the hope of his parents. When he comes into the world, he is just a young sapling, and the nurturing of his parents makes him grow up day by day, and eventually he grows into a big tree that can resist the wind and rain and bring shade to mankind.

  I am sure that every child can become a genius in learning as long as he or she finds the right way.

  I wish your child the best of luck in his or her success.

  Homeschool motto.

  Don't hurt your child's self-esteem, don't reprimand your child with high goals that are divorced from his or her abilities, and make the best of the situation according to his or her learning status. This is a particularly important principle.

  A certain amount of criticism is necessary to teach frustration and to develop the child's psychological qualities and ability to endure. And excessive criticism may discourage the child]. It is entirely possible that the wrong kind of criticism may cause a child to become rebellious.

  Properly understand the huge fact that children are being evaluated for grades every day, every month, every semester, every school year at school, and understand what kind of psychological state the child's self-esteem, sense of honor, and all of his or her performance in learning should be visibly marked and measured every day, parents will be able to treat their children correctly.

  For children with good learning foundation, we should pay attention to open his thoughts, encourage him to think creatively, improve learning efficiency and increase extracurricular interest. This is the way of education that really makes the child do well in studies in the long term and be able to create and have the ability to work and learn as an adult.

  When a child regresses, the best approach for parents is not to reprimand, not to blame, not to count, but to talk calmly with the child and encourage the child to find out the reason for the regression on his or her own.

  If the child can find out the reason, the problem will be easier to solve.


  In 1997, I had published several books on education, namely, "Emotional Intelligence Enlightenment", "Raising Children as Geniuses of Learning" and "The Chinese Child Success Method".

  Since last year, I have also published The Method of Success for Middle School Students and Homeschooling Live - How We Can Be Parents Today. All of these works have been well received by readers.

  In recent years, family education has received increasingly widespread attention, and I have always believed that, with social education being roughly the same, family education often determines whether a child succeeds or not.

  I have come into contact with many families and with many children. No one can doubt the care and love that Chinese parents have for their children, yet their education style is rarely recognized by their children, and the hard work they put in is often not proportional to the fruits they reap. Many parents almost give up their own lives, careers and enjoyment during their children's teenage years of growing up, but the results are not good on their children.

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