How to develop habits?
1. The starting point should be low
The main principles of good study habits are: low starting point, strict requirements, small steps, fast pace, more activities, seeking changes, fast feedback, diligent correction, so that it is relevant, operable and effective.
2. Give play to the initiative of the child
Fully respect the rights of children, let them play a master role in habit formation, decide for themselves which good habits to develop and which bad habits to correct, decide for themselves which methods to use, and take the initiative to learn to cooperate with adults, which should become the first principle of habit education. Of course, the guidance and help of adults is necessary, but education can only be successful if the sleeping giant in the child's heart is awakened.
3. Parents and children learn from each other and grow together
Every parent and teacher needs to reflect on themselves to see what good habits they have that are worth keeping and what bad habits they have that need to be corrected. A person who is brave enough to admit his or her own defects is a modern person. A high level of learning is a teacher, and a high level of behavior is a model. Parents and teachers must be teachers and must set an example for others, otherwise how can they convince others?
Although it is said that no one is perfect, adults will have a lot of good habits after all, and the long history and tradition of the Chinese nation will benefit us a lot. Perhaps, this is the basis for educating our children. The problem is that we must see that today's children are growing up in the information age, and they are sucking the fresh milk of reform and opening up. They have many strengths and habits that we do not necessarily have. Therefore, we should not only think about educating our children, but also learn from them, and the scientific attitude is to learn from them and grow together.
4. Focus on developing personalized habits
The formation of habits requires skills, and skills necessarily include a series of indicators and norms that are harmoniously mixed. Therefore, it is hoped that habit formation will be refined to a surprising degree. That is, what good habits need to be developed by children of different ages? What specific steps should be taken to develop these habits? What normative standards should be achieved? All should be summarized through research practice. This is, of course, a requirement for the researcher. For parents and teachers, they only need to establish the goals and methods of cultivation for their own children's situation.
The question is, what exactly are we seeking in habit formation education? How can we develop good habits at the root?
For example, it has been suggested that when serving with a smile, the attendant is required to show eight teeth. You can try it in the mirror, the smile when showing eight teeth is indeed brilliant. It should be said that this requirement is justified, but people with a little social experience also understand that the smile with eight teeth may not come from the heart, fake smile, dry smile, giggle, smile, etc., can show eight teeth, which is what people need?
Thus, I think that habit development should be personalized and not just skill-based. To be more specific, in the process of habit development, we should take healthy personality as the core goal and pay attention to the cultivation of concepts and emotions, so that children know what they know about each good habit, so that they know what they believe and practice it.
5. The key is in the first three days, the decision is in a month
According to research, it generally takes 21 days to develop a habit. This number is of course an average, the habits are different, each person's degree of seriousness is different, the degree of hard work is different, the time used is certainly not the same. Since this 21 days is an average, we use the concept of a month to remember better and more secure, so "the development of habits in a month, the key in the first three days"
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