Painful abandonment-woodmam

I still wondered if there was something wrong with Charlie, but I looked up at the sky. In no time, I put Charlie and everyone else behind me. I hadn't looked up at the sky on a bright night in so long that I had forgotten how beautiful it was.

  Charlie said, "I was at work today and had a problem that has been bothering me. When I came out into the yard tonight, I decided there was no hope of solving that problem. But then I laid down to enjoy the beautiful sky, and the longer I lay there, the smaller the problem seemed to become. I am now convinced that there are no more difficulties, although I have only solved part of the problem." I couldn't help but wonder what would have happened if Charlie had gone to the dinner tonight. Would he have decided that the problem was too difficult to solve?

  Not only do we need time to consider our problems in detail, we also need time to let our thoughts flow freely in order to learn more about ourselves. In fact, the so-called social adjustment is nothing more than liking others and being liked by them. Experts in behavioral studies have repeatedly pointed out that the extent to which we like others is proportional to the extent to which we like ourselves. We must occasionally find time to deal with ourselves.

  I absolutely believe that life can only be complete if it is lived in a balanced way. We must spend time with others and socialize, but we must also occasionally get away to reflect and contemplate: I think we are more refreshed, stronger, and ready to be more valuable members of society after each time we reflect and contemplate. Therefore, whenever we have too many social engagements and desire to stay home in the evening to meditate, we can say "I'm not going" without feeling embarrassed for saying it.

  The pain of giving up

  Some choices are either/or, and trying to have the best of both worlds will only bring longer suffering in the days to come.

  Faced with brutal hunger, golden eagles must do so, or they will all starve to death.

  The European golden eagle nests on a high mountain cliff, and with its sharp beak and strong claws it declares itself king of the sky. In a golden eagle's nest, only two chicks hatch. In years when food is scarce, the young will starve and the mother will have to watch her children scream with hunger. At this point, the two young eagles will push each other hard, and the weaker one will always be squeezed off the cliff and die. The mother eagle always tolerates this "animal behavior".

  It is difficult to understand the golden eagle, but in the face of cruel hunger, the golden eagle must do so, otherwise they will all die of hunger. Not only the golden eagle, we humans are also faced with the painful abandonment?

  Some choices are either/or, and to have the best of both worlds will only bring longer suffering in the days to come.

  Perhaps giving up is a painful, even helpless choice at the time. However, a few years later, when we look back on that past, we will be proud of the right choice at the time, feeling no shame in society, no shame in life. Perhaps it is because of the abandonment of that year, to reach today's glorious peak and the other side of the success.

  The pressure of choice

  People who are more dependent cannot make independent choices because they are afraid to take responsibility and face possible negative consequences, and eventually suffer from negative emotional pressure for a long time, which increases their low self-esteem.

  Seventeen-year-old Yingzi is a junior high school student. When she first entered school, her biggest wish was to "get into the student union and get ahead, to be in a position of responsibility so that she could practice her social adaptation skills". Soon, because she was a good singer (one of the top ten singers on campus) and a good dancer, she soon became the "acting" recreation minister of the school's student council. After joining the student council, she actively did everything, even the small things, she would do her best to make her superiors very satisfied.

  However, because she did not handle the relationship between work and study well, Yingzi's academic performance plummeted, "60 points is too long for me." "My beading class is the biggest headache - I still haven't passed Level 4, while most of my classmates have passed Level 2, and some have even passed Level 1." "I'm afraid that I won't have learned anything by the time I graduate and will be looked down upon when I step into the workforce."

  Therefore, she thought, "Should I resign and quit the student union?" For a long time, Eiko's heart was as heavy as a stone, depressed and sensitive to anger over this question.

  In her opinion, if she resigned, she could use the remaining year or so to study English, computer or something, or to read books to improve herself, and to study her major and study for a college, "to live another life."

  But she worries: "As a lively and vain girl like me, once I'm out of the limelight, will I be able to bear the sharp contrast?"

  "Without social work, will I be empty?"

  "Will my rival turn on me after replacing me as recreation director?"

  "Won't I lose a good opportunity to exercise after I resign?" With a dilemma on her left and a dilemma on her right, Eiko wished someone would help her with an idea.

  People who are more dependent are unable to make independent choices because they are afraid to take responsibility and face the negative consequences that may come, and eventually their low self-esteem is aggravated by the pressure of negative emotions for a long time.

  Oil tycoon's concept of money

  It took him a lifetime to recover the world he had lost, where there was peace, happiness, health and longevity that money could not buy, and the respect and love of others.

  A rich man visited a philosopher to ask him why he had become more narrow-minded and selfish since he became rich. The philosopher took him to the window and asked, "Look out and tell me what you see?" The rich man said, "I see a lot of people in the outside world." The philosopher took him to a mirror again and asked, "Now what do you see again?" The rich man replied, "Myself." The philosopher smiled and said, "Both the window and the mirror are made of glass, the difference is only that the mirror has an extra thin layer of silver. But it is because of this little silver, you will only see yourself and not the world."

  People know that the oil king Rockefeller is a famous philanthropist, but few people know that Rockefeller was also a thin layer of silver blindfolded.

  Rockefeller came from a poor background, the initial business hard work, people praised him as a good young man. When he became rich, he became greedy and ruthless, and the residents of the oil fields of Pennsylvania were deeply affected by him and hated him to the bone. Some residents made puppet statues of him, and then hanged the puppet simulacrum to relieve their hatred. Countless threatening letters filled with hatred and curses were sent to his office, and even his brother, disgusted by his deeds, moved his son's grave from the Rockefeller family cemetery, saying, "My son cannot sleep in peace within the land dominated by Rockefeller!" The first half of Rockefeller's life was spent in public disaffection. At the age of 53, Rockefeller was stricken with disease and the man was as thin as a mummy.

  The doctors announced to him the harsh truth: he had to choose between money, worry and life. It was then that he began to realize that the demon of greed had taken control of his body and mind. He listened to his doctor's advice, retired to his home, began to learn to play golf, went to the theater to see comedies, and often chatted with his neighbors.

  He began to live an uncontested and uneventful life. Later, Rockefeller began to consider how to donate his huge fortune to others. At first people didn't accept it, saying it was dirty money. But through his efforts, people slowly came to believe in his sincerity. When a school on Lake Michigan was about to close due to insolvency, he immediately donated millions of dollars, which led to the birth of the present University of Chicago; the famous Peking Union Hospital was also built under the sponsorship of the Rockefeller Foundation; in 1932, when cholera broke out in China, thanks to the Rockefeller Foundation, there was enough vaccine to prevent the disaster; in addition, Rockefeller also founded many welfare projects to help black people. to help black people. From then on, people began to see him in a different light.

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