Are children really indifferent to exams?-Woodmam

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  Parents look at the problem, probably not wrong. On the surface, this child does not look like he is studying too hard, and when he is about to take an exam, he is urged to study for it. But he can't find a way, and he has self-esteem, so when parents scold him, he may break down - I don't care if the test is good or bad! In fact, the child may care a lot and want to change his study situation, but he can't find a good way, and is faced with parents' constant urging, complaining, nagging and scolding, the child's self-esteem will develop in another direction: I don't care, I don't care.

  Please think about it, parents, adults sometimes have this mentality too! You do something and if someone accuses you of going too far, too much, you may rebel in your mind: I don't want to listen to you, I'm like that.

  So I said to this parent, "Actually, your child expressed that he or she cares a lot about his or her academic performance and exams, which means that the child is motivated to move up."

  This is the same child that also said, "Adults should be more optimistic." That's a great quote wow! A parent is always frowning and scolding the child, counting the child, is the child still motivated to learn?

  This child also said something like, "Your child has your child's strengths, you can't keep comparing your child to other children."

  Again, this is a profound statement. In a world where it's important to move someone forward by both admiring them and complimenting them, and at the same time providing some people who are better than them as role models, there are some laws to follow here. If your child is good at sports, but you scold him: Why are you running so slow, not as fast as Louis! Do you think the child will be convinced when he hears that? He will not be convinced! Your rebuke is inappropriate. It is entirely possible that your statement will produce negative elements in the child's mind instead.

  If a parent treats a child inappropriately, for example, by saying, "How come you are not as good at foreign language as the child who is number one in your class in foreign language? How come you are not as good at math as the top math student in your school? How come you're not as good at physical education as the top gymnast in your school?" This comparison of "you can't even compare to the first one" is not desirable, it is impossible that your child is useless.

  It is necessary to study the parents' own psychology and the child's current foundation. Always know that your child has made an effort today, and recognize that effort today. Even if this effort does not produce results, the practice of this effort should be affirmed first. If today's effort has produced progress, this progress should be recognized. Our parents sometimes don't understand that they only want their children to produce top-notch grades, but when they use this goal to ask their children, they don't provide them with the psychological support to achieve top-notch grades or give them the proper guidance in their study methods.

  Parents, you all have your own jobs now, and if you are surrounded by people who unfairly and inappropriately count and complain about your work, as if they want you to do better, you may not have the motivation or desire to do it at all. Be sure to find the right way to treat your children. I have spoken more than once about the need for parents to be able to truly understand their children, to be able to treat them appropriately, to understand a young being, his mental and physical state, and to have a positive impact on them with all that you say and do in your treatment of them.

  There are many successful people in this world whose parents are not necessarily great educators, not necessarily great scientists, not necessarily highly and highly educated, but their children succeeded. Many of the world's successful and historically called great people, when they write about their upbringing, often write specifically about the influence of their mothers or fathers on them. We find that those mothers and fathers didn't actually teach him how to learn math, how to learn languages, how to learn foreign languages from an early age. What did he give the child, that's what we're looking at.

  What we want is to really make the child smart and healthy, and well-rounded, while understanding the parents and understanding the society. Finding the right laws does not require parents to take on the task of homeschooling more tediously from now on, to work harder, to worry more, to adopt an underwriting approach and to rush and count. Not! It just makes it easier and more enjoyable for parents, and at the same time, your homeschooling truly puts your child on the path to success.

  If this approach allows you to enjoy the fruits of this education for life, and your child is henceforth free from your worries, able to improve in learning and daring to cope with all kinds of challenges, what a good thing it is! The starting point of this good thing is just to ask parents to have a sincere heart and confidence. I believe that all the parents who come here to communicate can achieve this result.

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