Honest and trustworthy-Woodmam
B. Teach your child to recognise danger. Parents can learn to recognise dangers by talking to their children more often in general. For example, what are the dangers of meeting someone online in private, or what might happen if they are alone in a room with a boy. Make sure your child understands what 'secrets' are harmful. Be careful not to take it personally when talking about these topics; parents should simply be honest about what they know and what they think. Don't say "you mustn't do that" to your child, as they will get annoyed and probably retort: "You think I don't understand that?"
C. Give your child appropriate help or guidance. If the child is allowed to keep his or her secrets, how will the parents know some important information about the child?
One is to learn to "read" the child. When a child has something on his or her mind, it usually shows in the way he or she looks or speaks. At this point, instead of pushing the child, parents can talk to the child about lighter topics or take the child to fun activities to ease the child's worries, and tell the child alone in a private setting that if the child needs any help, just say the word. Secondly, tell your child that being good at asking for help is a modern human skill. When a child tells a trusted adult what is on his or her mind, the adult should not criticise the child as if he or she had caught a pigtail or say something demoralising, but should help the child as if he or she were a friend, helping him or her to come up with ideas and solutions so as to gain the child's trust.
2. How to build parental authority?
Parental authority determines the effectiveness of home education.
What is "prestige"?
The word "authority" refers to adherence to principles and "trust" refers to keeping promises.
Experts have studied the sources of parental authority for four years and have concluded that if you start with the "sources" and pay attention to what you say and do, you can build authority in the minds of your children.
The following are four sources of parental authority.
(1) Honesty and trustworthiness
In the word 'prestige', 'faith' and 'prestige' have equal status and honesty and trustworthiness are indispensable elements in making a child feel good about his or her parents.
For parents, there are several principles.
A. Do not boast or make promises in front of your children. If you make too many promises and fail to keep them, your standing in your child's mind will be greatly diminished. If your child asks for something, don't just say yes, but tell your child clearly whether you can or can't.
B．After making a promise to your child, it is a good idea to write it down immediately in a notepad that you keep with you to remind yourself to keep it in time.
C. If you break your promise to your child for any reason, you should explain it to your child promptly and not perfunctorily. You should solemnly apologise to your child and discuss with him/her what forms of amends can be made.
Once upon a time, without exception, children thought their parents were the most competent and all-knowing. As they grow older and more knowledgeable, they begin to look at their parents with a critical eye and find all sorts of weaknesses in them. At this time, to maintain parental authority, it is important that you do not rely solely on a close relationship with your children, but that they see your social role and feel that you are "important" in society.
A. Respect your job and tell your child how important it is. No matter what your profession is, there is beauty and dignity in any profession and you should be proud of it. Talk to your child about your job more often or take them to your workplace on your days off. If a mother does not have an occupation, she should still be actively involved in society. A mother who is isolated from the world and only cares for her husband and children is not likely to gain the respect of her children in a lasting way.
B. Try to enrich yourself. Children can learn about your hobbies from your daily conversations and habits. Parents who show interest in national and international events, enrich their knowledge through various channels, and socialise with friends of a higher level can all gain the respect of their children.
C. Participate in social welfare activities. Parents and their children actively participate in the cause of disaster relief and lend a helping hand to their compatriots in trouble, which not only fulfils their social responsibility but also gives their children a profound education and gives them a sense of reverence and trust for their parents.
(3) A submissive attitude
A. Be assertive. It is only those who have an opinion that have authority, that's for sure. No one would trust a person who relies on others to make judgements for themselves. In front of your child, you should show your initiative (don't forget, you are your child's backbone), make decisions quickly, and don't backtrack when you do.
At least once, let your child see you stand up for yourself. For example, if a teacher criticises your child at a parent-teacher conference, stand up for him or her on the spot! Stand up for what you see as unjust and immoral behaviour when you go out with your child! Just once, your child will develop a respect for you. Of course, you are not required to stand up for the mugger.
B. Be calm and able to control your emotions. Remaining calm and sensible in any situation is in itself very respectable. People with authority must first have the strength to control their egos. Parents who like to scare their children by lashing out remember: no matter how much you lash out, it is not as powerful as being calm.
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