What parents should be careful of at this time is not to be impatient. Do not listen to the child a couple of words and shout: "What, you stay comfortably, mom and dad earn money to support you, you still can not live?" And don't accuse your child of speaking in a way that says, "What are you going to say? If you want to talk, say it properly, don't say anything without a word!" Such criticism is enough to make your child lose his confidence in speaking for a long time afterwards.
It is better to wait and listen to your child to finish his or her sentence, or rather, to hear the whole truth.
You can use some of the following approaches.
(1) Do nothing, stop without speaking, watch the child with concern, and wait for him to say more
A. Repeat what the child has just said. For example, "You just said you would kill your class teacher, why should this person die?"
B．Speculate the child's emotion. e.g. "It looks like you're angry." "You're a little out of control, aren't you? Do you feel the fire coming up to your head?"
C. Use voice or words to identify with the child's emotions. For example, "It sounds like you are disappointed that you actually understood the text completely, but you lost points because of carelessness, which is irritating." "You look tired, and you were unlucky to be sick before this test, which interfered with your revision." "Oh", "Well", "I see."
D. Use a little humor. For example, "You just said you were going to kill your class teacher, when are you going to do it?"
E. Show interest in what the child is saying. For example, "That's really interesting, and what happened afterwards?" "Ugh, if only I had been there."
F. Inspire the child to talk on. For example, "That's why you were so angry, so how did they react when you got mad at them?" "You said half of the class was against you, so there must have been another half that was for you."
A．Do some soothing gestures to the child, such as wiping his sweat and pouring him a glass of water.
B．Partly physical contact, such as patting the child's hand.
C．Always stay engaged in listening to your child and don't stop to do anything else.
A．Remind yourself, "He must have his own reasons for saying that."
B．Remind myself, "This child's tone is irritating, but I must remain calm."
C．Remind myself, "I should know a little more facts before I make a judgment."
D．Remind myself, "What the child needs most right now is to say what's on his or her mind, not to hear what I have to say."
Step 3: Do it yourself.
Sometimes, we listen to our child's story and his thoughts, and that's the end of it, but sometimes, in order to solve the problem, or in order to let our child "learn the lesson", we need to add another stroke. If you get it right, you're adding the finishing touch, but if you get it wrong, you're adding to it.
Educational toys can be used to prompt children's learning abilities