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  2. Training must be strict and rigorous

  The process of training is a painful one. Even if you don't want to, you have to grit your teeth and keep going. Self-training requires a process because good habits often take longer to consolidate and cannot be achieved overnight.

  Strict training should avoid emotion. Never relax your demands on yourself when you are happy, or sweat over a small detail because you are in a bad mood. It is difficult to develop good habits without considerable honing. Different behavioral habits have different standards, and after determining the standard, we must strictly comply with it and not relax.

  3. Training must be persistent

  Habit development is a persistent process. If not persistent, today's training, tomorrow's vacation, behavior will be difficult to become automated habits. Cultivating habits is a long-term project, a good habit often takes a long time to develop.

  Because human behavior tends to have inertia, after a period of training, if a little relaxation, there will be repeated. Therefore, when training, must be repeatedly catch, can not relax, even in a certain behavior has been very good performance, but also repeatedly catch. At the same time, do not be discouraged by the recurrence of the phenomenon, which is normal and can be solved through our efforts.

  Comenius said, "Everything that exists beauty its nature is easy to yield when delicate, easy to form, but when it comes to long hard after it is not easy to change." Be sure to overcome your own laziness and intimidation, and train your behavior from now on, starting from small things. For example, to develop the habit of writing homework carefully and thoughtfully, you have to do self-checking every day until it becomes a habit. You can't be very strict with yourself today, but in a few days you won't care at all, which is not a good habit. "Tightening before and then loosening after", "an exposure to ten cold", "three days to fish and two days to sunbathe", this is not desirable in the cultivation of habits. Must have patience, persistence.

  Fourth, the method of operation

  1. Clear goals, specific requirements

  Good behavior only through repeated decomposition operation practice, in order to form a natural, consistent, stable power stereotypes, some operation process more complex behavior requirements, can be used to decompose the operation.

  Such as learning to wash clothes this training content, demanding, the process is more complex, in training may be divided into four steps: a soaking, two rubbing, three rinsing, four drying. Before self-training, it is best to observe how parents wash clothes, ask them to explain the essentials of washing clothes when parents wash clothes, and then do it yourself, so that the impression formed is often deeper.

  For example, when using civilized and polite language, the word "thank you" seems very simple, but there are many details to pay attention to. In this case, you may want to ask your elders for advice first. They will often give you some appropriate advice based on their real life experience, such as.

  First of all, when saying "thank you" must be sincere, from the heart, to make people sound not pretentious, not hard, not to cope with others, but sincere thanks, only sincere to make the word "thank you" rich in emotion.

  Secondly, when saying "thank you" should be serious, natural, to let people hear clearly, not vague, embarrassed, not to make light of it, as if reluctant, to cope with the task.

  Third, when saying "thank you" to pay attention to the other party's reaction. If the other party is very happy is to achieve the purpose, if the other party to your thanks inexplicably, we must say that the reasons for thanking others, in order to make the other party feel your true feelings.

  Fourth, say "thank you" with the whole body and mind to say, in addition to the mouth to say, the head to gently nod, eyes to look at each other, and to be accompanied by a moderate smile.

  Fifth, after others have helped to relieve their difficulties, should express their gratitude. The way to express this can be said: "Thank you!" "Thanks for your help!" You can also shake hands to express your gratitude, and you can also give something to express your gratitude.

  The way of expressing gratitude varies from person to person and from occasion to occasion, so be sure to choose the most appropriate way of behavior according to the actual situation, so that the training can be both standardized and not mechanical.

  2. Separate levels

  Because of the different age levels of young people, the requirements for good habits are different for each age group. For example, when developing the habit of "civilized travel", it is best to train yourself to buy tickets on board, not to throw objects out of the window, not to stick your head out of the car, and other more basic requirements, and then further require yourself to take the initiative to give up your seat for passengers, pass tickets for passengers, and other more requirements.

  3. Check in time

  Only requirements without inspection, the requirements will easily fall short, so self-inspection and evaluation must be insisted on frequently. For example, training to do homework carefully and conscientiously should be checked every day, which day is not written neatly asked which day's homework redo, not at all sloppy, it is best to prepare a special book, the situation of the homework is registered, so that a stage to make a summary. For example, to develop the good habit of folding your own quilt every morning, you should check your own quilt folded every day, folded neatly or not, found not folded or folded badly, must be corrected in time, so that training can form a good habit. Although these tasks are relatively trivial, but must be long-term persistence.

  Chapter 7 positive reinforcement method

  I. Explanation

  I don't know if you have a similar experience, they did something in a certain situation, if you get a satisfactory result or a positive answer, the next time you encounter the same situation when the possibility of doing this thing will improve, unconsciously, it has become a habit. This is "positive reinforcement". Although we cannot exaggerate a praise and encouragement can shape a new behavior, but we should see: positive, positive external reaction and self-evaluation, on the development of good behavior habits have a more obvious role in promoting.

  For our youth, the use of "positive reinforcement" is to learn to affirm themselves in the self-cultivation of habits. In a sense, it is to learn to "self-praise", "self-reward", "self-encouragement". Also, get as much help from your parents as possible.

  Some people may say, "Who doesn't know this method? Don't teachers and parents often use this method on us? On the surface it does look like that. But that is all praise and motivation from others. It is not easy to really master this method and use it with ease. If you don't have a good grasp of the "degree" of affirmation, you can easily slip to the edge of complacency and become a negative factor in habit development.

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