Little Lone Ranger-Woodmam
Whatever you want your child to do, be sure to weigh all aspects of the situation and choose those things that are safe for your child to do. As guardians, parents must be responsible for the safety of their children first and foremost. The formality of whether or not the child is allowed to go out alone is not the most important thing. The most important thing is that the child is often given the opportunity to do things alone, to take responsibility alone, and to solve problems alone. Even if it's traveling with parents and doing things together, parents shouldn't do anything that can be done alone, and parents shouldn't rush to give their children ideas on anything they can think of alone. Parents should pretend to be incompetent and ignorant in front of their children, so that they can leave all kinds of opportunities to their children.
"Independence" is synonymous with self-reliance, and it is a necessary condition for a person to grow up. Now there is a saying that young people are going to have a family and a career, but they still can't leave the pacifier psychologically. Many people just take this phenomenon as an interesting topic to talk about, but in fact, what is hidden behind this is the deep sadness of a person and even a nation. This sadness does not seem serious for the time being, but I am afraid that the future will become more and more worrying. The philosopher Fromm believes that there is a litmus test to test whether a mother's love for her child is of high quality, that is, whether the mother is willing to fully let go of her child, whether she is willing to promote the child's autonomy and independence.
If you love your child, let go of your hand and let the little loner go "out in the world"!
If you want to encourage your child to do something independently, don't look so worried and unsure yourself. If you think it's feasible, show your trust in your child and show that you are relaxed and happy; keep your nervousness and worries to yourself.
● It is easy for adults to do things for children, and any parent can do that; the hard part is not to do things for children.
Parents who take care of their children's affairs and do not let their children be independent even in their minds are in fact thinking in a self-centered way, not considering their children's psychological needs and not realizing that their children's independence needs to grow. Instead, they take up all the space for their children to grow up with impermeable "care" and "guidance", depriving them of the opportunity for self-education and self-growth again and again. When the child grows up and many potential abilities in the child's nature are seriously degraded, the parents complain that the child "doesn't know what to do", "has no talent", "is lazy" and so on.
The most important thing is to give your child the opportunity to do things alone, to take responsibility for things alone, and to solve problems alone. Parents should not do anything that their children can do alone, and parents should not rush to give their children ideas if they can let them think alone. Parents should pretend to be incompetent and ignorant in front of their children so that they can leave all kinds of opportunities to them.
Educational toys can be used to prompt children's learning abilities