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 There are times when we do really struggle a bit to control our emotions too, and that's when it's important to think about your children, who are learning from you about how to deal with their anger. What kind of an example do you want to set for them?

  C. Be optimistic, not nagging and complaining. Do you respect people who complain incessantly? Would you want to be around people who nag all the time? You would say: I can't avoid them! Children feel the same way, when they listen to their mothers nagging them, they want to find a place to hide, but the worst thing is that they can't find such a place! Nagging, sighing and complaining are behaviours that greatly hurt your image in your child's mind.

  D. Handle your child correctly for making mistakes. Children often make mistakes out of curiosity or ignorance, and in some cases it has to do with not being able to control themselves. As children themselves, they often panic when they make a mistake, thinking that they will never be liked or trusted by their parents, teachers or classmates, and that they will regret it. Therefore, the most effective time to teach a child is when he or she makes a mistake.

  Firstly, give your child the right to complain and let him or her talk about how the mistake happened in a calm manner.

  Secondly, help the child to recognise the nature of the mistake and the harm it has done, and the child can really grow in the process. It is even possible to keep a child's mistake a secret so that his or her self-esteem is not bruised. In such cases, the child who makes a mistake will usually learn from it, redouble his or her efforts and be grateful to the parents.

  (4) Be good at compromising

  Compromising with the child does not diminish the parent's prestige; on the contrary, if the child is compromised with under certain conditions, the child will feel that the parent is relatable and respectable, "Compromise with conditions, prestige becomes natural."

  Surrender is not an option and unconditional compromise is tantamount to 'giving up' to the child. In the long run, the child will never consider the feelings of others and will naturally believe that his or her needs should be met!

  Neither should you give in to your child's unreasonable behaviour. Some parents don't know what to do when they see their child crying and pouting, or their hearts go soft and they give in to their child's needs. This compromise is bound to have many consequences, as the child learns how to deal with adults from this "gain".

  There are three steps to effective compromise.

  A. Ask the child to state clearly and distinctly what he or she wants and why.

  B. Discuss the reasonableness of the request with the child.

  C. Make certain concessions to the child, but the child must take some responsibility.

  Learn to be a "cheerleader" for your child

  Never be a "referee" for your child.

  As soon as a child is born, he or she begins a journey of competition and struggle. In the arena of life, children can only work on their own and parents cannot replace them.

  However, parents can give their children the strength to keep them in good shape, and that strength is the power of the cheerleader.

  We should put ourselves in the stands and cheer from a distance, whether our child is in the winner's position or temporarily behind, and give them a positive applause, because they cannot go to the end of success without their parents' "cheering".

  Building your child's self-confidence is a core task of family education.

  Self-confidence means believing in one's own potential and making positive choices in everything. Self-confidence plays a decisive role in a child's development. We regard "self-confidence" as the soul of education, or rather, without self-confidence, everything is meaningless and impossible for a child.

  According to Liu Jinghai, one of China's most accomplished and successful educators, "People live by their self-concept! If you think you are a good person, you will live like a good person; if you think you are a bad person, you will live like a bad person. So the number one thing in education is to make a child believe that he or she is a good person, a capable person! This is self-confidence and the core of personality is also self-confidence. around the age of 10 is the critical period for self-confidence to form, when a self-concept of self-confidence or inferiority is formed, which will affect the whole life of the person."

  1. How to find and praise your child?

  (1) Discover your child's "shining points"

  The first task is to pick out the things that your child does right from the ordinary and praise them.

  Some parents may say, "Why can't I find the good in my child? How can I praise my child when I always think he is useless? How can I praise him if he is not even close to other children?" In fact, parents who think this way are looking at their children with a critical eye. Of course, it doesn't mean that it is wrong for parents to look at their children with a critical eye, but the key question is what you are "critical" of. If you are picking on your child's flaws or shortcomings, you are sending a negative message to your child. If you are 'picking out' your child's strengths, then you will naturally recognise and praise your child.

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