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Third, requirements and principles

  When you see your little friend write all the homework cleanly and praised by the teacher, you may also silently resolve in your heart that you must learn from your partner; likewise, when you see your little friend playing the game machine so proudly, you may also be itching to try it yourself ...... People often say, " The one who is close to the vermilion is red, the one who is close to the ink is black". There is truth in this statement. "Mencius moved three times" in order to give her children a good environment. Peer role models are also a part of our surroundings. So, what principles should be followed in choosing good peer role models?

  Some people may think that since they are choosing role models, they should "choose the best as their neighbors" and find those who are excellent in all aspects as their role models. There is nothing wrong with thinking this way, but does it have to be this way? In fact, even if there is something you should learn from your partner, such as being a serious student, punctual, polite, obeying traffic rules, etc., they are all good examples for you to learn from. If you deliberately look for those best peers for comparison, it is not conducive to your progress because the goal is too high. Therefore, choosing a high target that suits you should be an important principle for finding peer role models.

  Fourth, the method of operation

  Many of our friends are formed in natural contact and interaction, either in the same class, the same school, or neighbors, or in a common activity, parents are often afraid that we will make bad friends, and their fears are not unreasonable. How should we grasp the "degree" of making friends and find the right role models for ourselves at the same age?

  1. Know yourself and choose friends according to your situation

  First of all, we must analyze our own specific situation, such as what are the strengths and weaknesses? What areas need to be improved? For example, you think you need to improve in cleanliness and hygiene, you may try to make some friends with good hygiene habits; then, together with their interests to choose friends, for example, you like to read, you may want to interact with those who also have an interest in reading more partners, in the exchange of their reading experience and so on.

  In addition, it is very important to understand each other's situation. Conditions permitting, you can learn about each other's family background. Family environment is very important for a person's influence, from his family can be more understanding of your friends.

  2. communicate more with your parents

  In general, parents will not easily oppose our normal interactions, but they always want us to interact with the "good kids" more. Of course, parents may have a different measure than we do, but their opinions are worth considering. What should you do if your parents don't like your friends, or even say that your friends are "bad" kids?

  First, you should understand that your parents are trying to do what is best for you.

  Usually, most of the "bad" children in the eyes of parents can be divided into four categories: one is poor academic performance, there is no quality problems; the second is poor academic performance, but also indiscipline, playfulness, absenteeism and other behaviors; the third is bad learning, discipline, and smoking, fighting, flirting with the opposite sex and other bad behavior; the fourth is bad behavior behavior is serious, and even have mild illegal behavior, such as petty theft, a small amount of fraudulent money, robbery and other behavior. For the first two cases, can not be said "bad", is a shortcoming, there are certain mistakes; the third kind of mistakes more, more serious; the fourth kind of problems are more serious, but there is a difference with the social adults in the bad guys.

  The reason why parents think that these friends are "bad" is because they have more flaws and are afraid that they will affect your studies, not necessarily because they want to interfere with your freedom of interaction. So, if your friend belongs to the first two situations, you may want to explain your position to your parents with respect: you can make progress with your friend or help him to make progress; if your friend's situation is more serious, you can take your parents' advice and ask them to help you understand what is a real friend and what you should learn from your friend.

  Second, let your parents meet your friends.

  If you have some regular friends of your own and your parents don't like them, you can ask your friends to come to your home, so that not only do your parents get to know your friends, but your parents can also guide your behavior in relation to the actual situation.

  3. Ask your parents to help stipulate

  After getting your parents' approval and help, you may want to ask them to stipulate some principles of behavior for you. Because after all, our teenagers' ability to judge right and wrong is still limited, and our parents cannot always follow us, it is necessary to ask our parents to tell us what we can and cannot do when we are with our friends. For example, when our parents are not home, we can invite our friends to play at home, but don't just go through the things in the house, pay attention to the safety of electricity, etc.

  4. Progress with friends

  This is the ultimate goal of finding peer role models. The power of role models is infinite. Usually, due to our individual limitations, often you are better than me in this point, he is better than you in that point, we all have their own advantages, not comparable. In this case, it is best for us to set an example for each other, to learn from the strengths in others, to overcome the weaknesses in ourselves, and at the same time to influence others with our own excellence and help them progress. Never be affected by the shortcomings or bad habits in others, good habits are not developed, and a whole lot of bad habits, which deviates from our original intention. "If three people walk, there must be a teacher in me". Only by constantly learning from each other can we keep making progress.

  Chapter 3 Experience Method

  I. Explanation

  This method means to realize and experience the importance of good habits through personal practice, so as to strengthen good behaviors and reduce the appearance of bad ones. The process by which children acquire "knowledge" comes not only from adult education but also from children's experiences. This is an important source of children's cognition. Experiential education plays an important role in the moral education and growth of children and adolescents.

  As a whole, most of the urban and rural children and adolescents in China suffer from the deficiency of social experience.

  On the one hand, most urban children and adolescents in China are only children, and although this group has changed a lot in receiving information compared with the past, most of this knowledge is acquired indirectly from books, newspapers and magazines, TV, internet and radio. Although parents often painstakingly tell their children to obey the rules of the road, do not speak hygienically easy to get sick, learn to be responsible for themselves and others, etc., but for children, parents' words are often not as good as those spoken on TV, and not as vivid as those spoken on the Internet. In this way, habits remain an invisible and untouchable concept to children.

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