Wealth No. 3 - An ear that listens-Woodmam
We each have two ears, and the function of the ears is to listen.
I. We need to learn to listen to the sounds of nature
We live in nature and as long as we listen with our ears, we can feel that nature opens its doors and lets us hear the wind, the rain, the thunder, the water, the singing of the birds, the playing of the katydids, the playing of the puppies, the announcing of the hens and the beating of the roosters ...... So, we are integrated into nature.
Organs degenerate when not used and we don't want our children to live in a world of silence. Then, on holiday, take your child, leave the noisy city, go to the wild, to the mountains, to the sea, to the middle of nature to listen, forget the mountains of homework, forget the results of exams, forget the unhappiness of the past, just to listen, listen to the sounds that you can not hear on a regular basis, feel the beauty of listening!
Second, we must learn to listen to each other, listen to each other's voices
We have to deal with people every day, the people around us are the object of our listening. Adults should listen to children's voices, and children should listen to adults' voices; students should listen to teachers' voices, and teachers should listen to students' voices. If we listen attentively, we can feel that the other person accepts us.
When talking to each other, whether it is an adult or a child, we need to look at each other intently and listen patiently. Although we are very tired from a long day at work, when a child speaks to us, we need to encourage him to speak and try to let him express, through words, all his positive and negative emotions. Children today are so short of listeners!
Everyone has joys and sorrows, everyone wants to share their joys and sorrows with others, everyone craves empathy and understanding, and children are naturally no exception. For children, the best people to share their joys or share their feelings of anger, fear, depression, sadness and grief are undoubtedly their parents.
Our ears need to have the 'tolerance' to hear the 'good news' and not the 'bad news'. When we hear that our child has brought home "good news", we will be happy to touch his or her head to show our appreciation, but when we hear "bad news", we will scoff or even reprimand him or her, often not knowing how to express our understanding of the child's situation, even though we would like to.
Listening requires discipline. We have one mouth but two ears, so we need to talk less and listen more. When we talk to our friends, although we have a lot of new things to say, we should leave more time for our friends, be a "listener" and encourage others to talk about themselves, so that each friend can feel the joy of being listened to. If a friend tells us a "secret", we promise never to say anything, because this is the ethics of a listener.
Thirdly, we must learn to listen to ourselves, to our own echoes
We live with our own echoes every day, and we can hear them if we keep our ears open.
A boy has a falling out with his mother and runs off into the mountains alone shouting, "I hate you!" A boy's voice also comes from the big mountain: "I hate you!" The boy got scared and went home to tell his mother that there was a bad boy in the mountain who said he hated me. The mother accompanied him to the mountain again and told him to shout at the mountain, "I love you! I love you!" Sure enough, the mountain responded, "I love you! I love you!"
The sound was an echo. An echo is a repetition of the sound we ourselves make. We should always listen to our own echoes and review what we say that is right and civilised, and what we say that is wrong and uncivilised. We should not say things we should not say in front of our children, and we should not say bad things about others behind their backs. Remember that children are the echoes of their parents.
By learning to listen, the other person will open their heart and the world will open new windows to us.
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