Learn to hold "parent-teacher conferences"-Woodmam


My goal was to build my child's confidence and motivate her to do well in math, so I had to say it differently.

  I said to her, "The teacher said that although you didn't do very well in math these few times, she thinks you actually have a lot of potential in math." Hearing me say this, Yuan Yuan was slightly surprised: Really, how could my teacher think I have potential when I did so badly in math? I said: your teacher is so good at teaching math, teaching a class after a class so many students, with her experience and feeling, should know which student has potential, right, otherwise how she would say so.

  I can see that Yuan Yuan's heart is moved. The class teacher said that she was surprised to see that she had a new understanding of her own math ability and that she had potential.

  I also told her that the teacher said that you should not be in a hurry and should not rush to compare your grades with your classmates, but should get down to earth and follow the teacher's teaching carefully. Do not pursue solving difficult problems excessively, grasp the basics properly, pursue down when you encounter problems until you understand a problem thoroughly, do not leave a dead end, solve the problem before there is no problem - these words about learning are actually what teachers tell all parents, and it certainly applies to every child. Stimulating her confidence and giving her sincere expectations is a huge encouragement to the child. As for how exactly to learn, I know I am incapable of guiding her, but I firmly believe that a down-to-earth mentality is the platform that can make learning take off, and with this mentality, she will naturally take the initiative to seek various methods that suit her and will bring her abilities to the maximum.

  As I write this, it occurs to me that some parents, who clearly have very little knowledge of a subject, think they have the ability to guide their children's learning and give them wild ideas and blind directions. For example, some parents want their children to learn how to write, so they snatch an interesting novel out of their children's hands and let them read essay selections; some parents go and buy their children various extra-curricular exercise sets based on advertisements or what other parents do, and stipulate that their children do a few problems every day; some parents take it for granted and set their children the goal of memorizing 10 English words a day, 300 a month, and 3600 a year. So I stress again, as a parent, don't be presumptuous, and don't just dictate to your child how to study if you are not completely sure. What parents should do is to protect their child's interest in learning and build up his confidence in learning. If you have interest and self-confidence, you are still afraid that he will not learn well, and that he will not be able to find his own way.

  As a matter of fact, Yuan Yuan's performance in mathematics has really improved and become more and more stable in the time since then. In the middle, of course, there were times when she did not do well in the exams, and she would show some frustration, so we hinted to her that she had potential in math. We told her that there is always some chance in the test, and that finding the problem itself is the reward, so she should just calm down and study hard. Her math teacher also gave her encouragement. A confident and practical mindset was the best "cram school" for her, and she made great progress in her math studies, moving from the lower middle of the class to the top.

  Communication between parents and school teachers is an effective way to understand their children, and teachers are generally truthful in telling parents about their children's various situations. However, it is important for parents to think about how to "communicate" and not to "communicate" everything to their children regardless of the situation. Be sure to consider how your "conveyance" approach and words will affect the child, whether constructive or destructive, stimulating or inhibiting.

  It is a sad fact that many elementary and middle school students dread parent-teacher conferences, and the day of the conference often becomes a "day of suffering" for them, especially for boys who do not do well in school, and the notice of the conference is a "punishment notice" for them. The parent-teacher conference notice is a "punishment notice". In their experience, parent-teacher conferences are "grade ranking conferences" and teacher "complaint conferences". The consequence is a light lecture at home, or a beating.

  Parents who scold their children after the parent-teacher conference must be simple and rude parents. Most of them don't communicate with teachers, but only hear about their children's school situation during parent-teacher conferences or when teachers "invite parents". The teachers tell him that the child is not disciplined, or that the child is not getting good grades, and so on, which are the reasons for his anger. On the way home from school, he does not think about how to solve his child's problems, does not reflect on whether he has made mistakes in education, does not think about how to help his child effectively, he just wants to settle accounts with his child quickly. Such parents treat their children simply and brutally, and punish their children after the parent-teacher conference, rather than trying to "educate" them, the parents just want to calm their own anger, want to export their anger. But this will only make the child's problems worse.

  Children are sensitive and fragile, and if a meeting between a teacher and a parent turns into a horrible event that shames the child and makes him or her suffer a lecture, the consequences will only make the child hate the teacher and the school; the child will lose motivation and judgment in learning, self-confidence, and morality; and it will most likely be reflected in learning, affecting academic performance. Even if you find out from the parent-teacher conference that your child is regressing, undisciplined, fighting with classmates, or even missing class and other serious problems, you should not scold your child when you get home. You should first analyze and communicate with the teacher to find out the cause of the problem as much as possible.

  Children don't have problems out of nowhere. When a problem arises, there must be some long-standing problem that has not been solved, or some external factor that makes some small problem worse. For example, if a child suddenly doesn't want to go to school, consider whether he has problems with his classmates, whether he feels aggrieved by a teacher's criticism, whether he encounters threats from others, etc. If your child's grades are falling, consider whether you are managing your child's studies properly, observe how he is feeling lately, what he is interested in, who he mainly interacts with, what kind of blows or temptations he has encountered, etc. temptation, etc. The most important thing is to communicate well with your child, so that he first trusts you and can tell you about his confusion and difficulties, and then get your encouragement and help.

  Scold and beat up your child for behaving badly - it is so easy and painful to do, and every parent can do it - so it is beloved by many parents. However, it does not solve any problems; therefore, it will also let those parents who are used to solving problems "quickly" and "easily" in the future, slowly taste more unpleasant and uncomfortable brought by the incompetence of teaching their children.

  After hearing their children's problems, they can act calmly, reflect on themselves, talk sincerely with their children, try to understand them, try to motivate them, and help them solve their problems skillfully - these actions are difficult and require a lot of reason and thought on the part of the parents. Parents who can think about their children's lifelong growth, can't they do this for their children? Education is in the smallest details. If you give a little reason, thought and wisdom at this time, and handle the various problems you encounter with art, your child will reward you with ten times the excellence.

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  Children are sensitive and fragile. If the meeting between teachers and parents turns out to be a horrible event that brings shame and changes the child's training, the consequences will only make the child hate the teacher and the school; make the child lose motivation and judgment in learning, self-confidence, morality, etc.; and it will mostly reflect on the study and affect the academic performance.

  Punishing a child after a parent-teacher conference is not so much a way to "educate" the child as it is a way for the parent to calm his or her anger and take offense. This will only make the child's problems worse.

  What parents need to do is to protect their children's interest in learning and build up their confidence in learning. With interest and self-confidence, you are still afraid that he won't learn well, and that he won't be able to find his own way.

  If your child does not perform well, scold him and beat him up - it is so easy and painful to do, and every parent can do it - so it is beloved by many parents. However, it can't solve any problem; therefore, it will make those parents who are used to solving problems "quickly" and "easily" taste more unpleasant and uncomfortable in the future due to their inability to teach their children.

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